Whenever I start thinking that we probably need to have some plan about any future children, I get a bit overwhelmed. It feels a bit like we are deciding whether a new person will live or not! Of course that's completely non-theological (untheological??) and ignores that it's God who predestines us and creates us. But do you know what I mean?
It also boggles my mind to think how it will change how our family is and interacts. Whether they will be a boy or a girl and how that will work with the two girls. It will change our needs practically and financially. It will change aspects of our lives such as work and school. But it may add something to our family that we may miss out on otherwise. I love my babies and so why would I not want another one? Arrgghh!
We've not made a final decision but I have come to the realisation that the following shouldn't come into the equation...
- Work. I don't want to be afraid of what my school would say or inconveniencing my colleagues. And also the stress of having to sort out childcare for a longer time. I've always said that my work will come second to my family.
- Finances. I am a strong believer that when it comes to family, God will provide. Money shouldn't be a limiting factor on how many children we are 'allowed'. He can provide houses, cars etc. Sometimes he may require us to live more frugal lives in order to have more children but that's ok!
So with those two things out of the equation, it's more about whether it feels 'right' for our family and if we think God has called us to have more children. This is definitely a decision that we want to make with God and not in our own wisdom! Whatever happens, I am so thankful for our wonderful family.
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