As you can probably tell from the tone of this post, it's been a rough few weeks in our house. Chloe has had a bad tummy bug, ear infection, conjunctivitis, cold and then chicken pox all in the space of a month! I have also been struggling with low iron which has left me really tired and run-down, although iron tablets are now helping. We have spent an awful lot of time cooped up in the house to avoid spreading Chloe's various infections. I love our house but the walls can close in very quickly when you have a bored toddler who is grumpy from feeling poorly.
I have also been finding things hard with the pregnancy. I said after having Chloe that I don't 'do' pregnancy well and I'm finding this time around similar. I tend to get lots of minor problems (as do many women) and the general feeling of being uncomfortable and large and in pain is just not something I enjoy! I feel guilty for admitting this, as I know so many women are desperate to become pregnant and it is truly and amazing experience, knowing that God is growing a little baby inside of me. But when I have raging heart-burn, hips that are so sore I can't sleep and tight, itchy skin it is very hard to have a positive outlook.
I only feel able to write this post because I feel like I'm coming through the other side of these hard couple of weeks and things are starting to look brighter. I think one of the most important things you can do as a mum is to get out of the house and see people who understand what you are going through. Being isolated and alone is one of the worst feelings, especially when you are caring for a sick child. But I have been to work for my usual 2 days this week (thank you Mum for having Chloe) which has allowed me some breathing space and time to do 'grown-up' things. And then today, thankfully, Chloe's spots had reached the stage where she is no longer contagious (crusted over and starting to heal) so I was able to meet up with some Mummy friends from church. Just getting out of the house and sharing my feelings with other human beings (other than my very loving and patient husband) has given me such a boost. It was so great to see Chloe happy again and running round. It's made me think that she was perhaps getting quite down too being inside and isolated so much.God has given us Mums an amazing role, but like with anything which is so important, it comes with such responsibility and cost, which I don't think we always count until we're forced to stop everything else. I love my daughter and this new baby which is currently wriggling around inside of me more than I could ever imagine. But it's this love and sacrifice that makes being a Mum so tough at times! I will admit that I did feel really depressed at times over the last few weeks. This is such a loaded term which has very negative connotations for me but I know it's true. I think it's very easy as mothers to 'just keep going' and not acknowledge when we're struggling. Thankfully I have very wonderful people around me who notice when I am not myself. We shouldn't be afraid to say we aren't enjoying life at a given time or even that we are getting near breaking point. As Christians we should protect each other, share burdens and not judge.
I am very thankful for a faithful Father in heaven who leads me through hard times and never leaves my side. When the devil speaks lies over me, I know that I can fight them with God's promises which he has spoken over me.
Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me;
your rod and your staff, they comfort me...
Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.
Psalm 23: 4, 6
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